Nalini with an Indonesian "Garuda," a mythical bird in Hindu and Buddhist mythology. |
On Thanksgiving Day 2001 Nalini Quraeshi was preparing dinner for 30 friends and family members when she received word that her father had died in Nepal. Her two-day trip found the country suddenly beset with tragedy—and world headlines.
A Maoist rebel insurgency had launched
simultaneous attacks on several police, army and government outposts in
several districts. The government declared the country in a state of
emergency, suspended all civil rights and imposed a curfew restricting
all movement after dark.
“It was a horrible time to go back,” said
Quraeshi, whose mission it was to get her mother safely out of the
country. The shocking, untimely death of her father was made more
traumatic by the political events in Nepal, and her concern for her
mother’s emotional well-being and physical safety.
Another traumatic homecoming occurred in
1965 when Quraeshi’s family was returning home after being in the United
States for six years. The journey to Nepal included a transit stop in
India, which was in the midst of a war with Pakistan over the Kashmir
issue, a dispute that had been brewing since partition in 1947.
“There were sirens and bombs. My sisters
and I had to put cotton in our teeth and ears for protection. We sat in
the darkness during these air raids because we had to turn off all the
lights. This was my homecoming to Nepal [at age nine].”
Quraeshi was born in Kathmandu, Nepal, but
because of her father’s work as a government diplomat for Nepal and
later the United Nations, she lived in New York, Washington, D.C.,
Bangkok and Rome. Her studies took her to Darjeeling, Delhi and the
United States.
“Before I could lay down roots and
establish an identity, my family moved to a different place,” said
Quraeshi. As a result, her parents taught her and her siblings that
people are united more by their similarities and shared values than by
their differences. All beliefs are sacred and everyone deserves
respect.
For example, as a graduate student in
sociology at Michigan State University (MSU), Quraeshi met her future
husband, Zahir Quraeshi, a Pakistani Muslim and now a marketing
professor at Western Michigan University (WMU). Meanwhile, her three
sisters are married to an Indian Hindu, a German Protestant, and an
Italian Catholic. Her husband’s sister married a Frenchman and their
daughter is married to someone who is Filipino by birth but English by
nationality. Her brother is single and lives in Boston.
“My family is a mini-United Nations,” said
Quraeshi, “but we all come together from all over the world to my house
at Thanksgiving to give thanks for our many blessings. And although we
observe all holidays, we especially come together to celebrate
Thanksgiving because of its secular tradition.”
Although Quraeshi spent the first part of
her life all over the world, her life after marriage has been
dramatically different. She now resides in Kalamazoo where she reared
two sons, taught Non-Western World Studies at WMU and to pursued her
doctorate and taught international development and sociology at MSU.
“My sons’ experience is so different from
my own,” she said. Even so, she has made certain that they grow up as
global citizens. That hasn’t been difficult.
Quraeshi’s spouse, Zahir, has been a steady
voice for globalism at WMU for the past three decades. During his
sabbatical year the family lived in Malaysia. They also have many
occasions to visit family members spread over three continents.
Her mother, 77, is Hindu, and her
mother-in-law, 96, is Muslim. They both live with the family, so
Quraeshi tries to honor their religious beliefs through cooking,
artifacts and design of the family’s home space.
Although she grew up a Hindu, Quraeshi
practices its intellectual and progressive qualities rather than its
ceremonial rituals. However, she feels comfortable among people from
any religion.
Global citizenship has to do with one’s
identity or one’s very persona that is ingrained and rooted, she said.
Accepting--and indeed embracing--diversity rather than fearing it
provides people with a “richness” that gives them more options for
study, travel, business and meeting others who have different ways of
life.
“Actually, I have tolerance for all religions and think of myself as a global citizen.”
However, Quraeshi admits that such a lifestyle has its downsides.
Being a global citizen means you don’t fit
into neat, standardized boxes. One of the most challenging questions
for Quraeshi is to be asked where her home is.
“Does that mean where I’m living now, where
I was born, where I have spent most of my life, the country of my
nationality or where my family currently resides?” she asked.
Quraeshi said she feels at home in any place because she identifies with and adapts to whatever culture she happens to be in.
“I could retire just as easily in Thailand
or Nepal or Italy or the U.S., as long as I have some friends and family
with me,” she said. “The hard part is not having the stability of
childhood friends to grow up with all my life.”
Recently, she has discovered a way to fill
this void: by returning to Nepal to try to fulfill her father’s vision
and wish to give back to the country in terms of economic development
and humanity equity.
Since the Maoists’ insurgency in the
country in 1996, rural Nepalis have fled to the cities and become “urban
squatters.” Village people from Bhutan and Tibet have left their homes
as political and economic refugees. Consequently, Kathmandu has
degenerated into an impoverished, overcrowded and polluted place,
without the infrastructure to support this rapid influx of people.
“There is so much that one can do,” said
Quraeshi. “And a whole generation of young adults is missing. In every
family someone has fled the country because of the violence. Parents
try to send their children overseas for an education, and to escape the
political and economic uncertainties.”
Recently, Quraeshi began to find ways of
implementing several rural development programs and experiments her
father had envisioned years ago. Over the last few years she returned
several times to continue this work, but she has had to overcome
bottlenecks of bureaucracy, logistics, security concerns and even
corrupt locals usurping her parental property and resources.
Quraeshi has also discovered that like her,
many of her high school friends have returned to Nepal, too. One of
them runs a conservation program, another has started schools for the
homeless, another works with children who were born and have grown up in
prisons, while yet another supports a non-governmental organization
(NGO) that rescues young girls from the rampant Asian sex trade.
Over the years many members of Quraeshi’s
family have been helping Nepal from afar by raising money for
scholarships and supporting schools, impoverished working families and
religious institutions. However, some are looking for projects that
allow them more hands-on involvement like her brother-in-law, a cancer
surgeon, who is seeking to donate his services.
Nalini Quraeshi embodies what it means to
be a global citizen. She has lived among numerous nationalities,
cultures and religions all over the world and speaks multiple
languages. Now, she is doing something to help her native land.
Gourmet Cook
Gourmet Cook
Nalini
Quraeshi plans her family’s meals with an international flair and
pragmatic determination. A sampling of her repertoire of dishes
includes Mexican eight-layered fiesta with guacamole, frijoles,
tortillas and corn salsa; Pad Thai with vegetables and chicken;
Nepali-Indian lentils with rice and vegetables; homemade Italian
focaccia with roasted vegetables and pesto; Mediterranean couscous salad
and 15-bean soup with vegetables; Italian scallops and fettuccine in
tomato wine sauce; Nepali Momos (steamed potstickers) with roast tomato
cilantro chutney.
She only learned to cook after she came to this country, got married and had to learn how to live in an extended family.
She likes to entertain, however, and often has family or friends over for a meal.
On Nepal
Nepal
is generally regarded as an obscure but beautiful, peaceful, exotic
Shangri-la kingdom on the “roof-top of the world.” It is the home of
Mt. Everest and eight of the world’s ten highest peaks, and is a great
tourist destination for hiking and mountain climbing. There are also 10
UNESCO-designated world heritage sites, seven of them in Kathmandu.
Nepal started out as a Hindu kingdom, but
it is now a secular federal republic with nine different religions
including Hindu, Buddhism, Islam and Kirant. Its much-loved monarchy
was seen as a reincarnation of God until 2001 when the prince designated
to ascend to the throne massacred his family.
The 29.5 million population is comprised of
several different ethnic groups who speak at least eight different
languages. This 147,181 square kilometer landlocked country is slightly
larger than Arkansas.
Since 1996 Nepal has been marked by
violence during a ten-year Maoist insurgency. Elections in May 2008 led
to a stunning victory of Maoist party, the overthrow of a 240-year-old
monarchy and the creation of a new federal democratic republic with the
pressing task of framing a new constitution by 2012. The government
platform is to give voice to indigenous, disenfranchised groups in the
hill regions and the far west. It remains to be seen how things will
work out.